What is frustrated pleasure and how does technology affect us?

“What’s left of sex after the sexual revolution?” How does the use of new technologies and social networks affect people’s intimate lives?” the headline asks. To this, there is a paradoxical answer: “On the one hand, taboos The end of the US, the validation of the right to sexual life, the blatant prohibition and institutional violation have created a poverty of desire and sexuality, both inside and outside community. . fellow. On the other hand, people (not just young people) seem to be more attracted to online sex, be it online pornography or virtual dating chats, which may be real in reality, but rarely lead to online sex. Really satisfying relationship. These behaviors create a situation or threat to the couple’s life and sexuality.”

As the experts explain, after examining the aspects that characterize these phenomena, they present “a series of typical cases of failed sex life, where the brief strategic treatment has disrupted physical or mental mechanisms that lead to anxiety, inadequacy, and even fear. they stifle joy and prevent its full expression. In this way, he gave back to those who needed it, not only the protection that had been lost or never found, but also the fullness that a happy sexuality can give to any couple.”

Interestingly, when it comes to youth reliance on new technologies and their impact, “twenties are no better, with nearly four times the risk of victimization than their peers in the past, contrary to collective imagination.” admits”. So says Professor Jean M. Twenge of the University of San Diego, who is quoted by the authors of this essay.

What changed; Why did people love each other differently 40 years ago? These questions lead the authors to determine that, often, the cost of connecting to a screen is less than “being romantically engaged.” In fact, they confirm that in the world “the average number of sexual relations between couples aged 25 to 45 is negligible: in a month and a half and is depressingly twice a year in one couple in ten”. The paradox is that “the rate of sexual interactions increases with age.”

Experts point out that people over 55 have more sex than people under 30. The answer lies in the fact that “people over 50 are clumsy or don’t know how to handle it” new technology and porn In connection‘, although other experts say this is due to the insecurities of young people who probably grew up in more sheltered and less socialized environments.

Through the many consultations the authors present from real patients, there is one common thread: as couple sex declines, so does monogamous sex, or increased autosexuality with the help of technology. One of the clinical cases reported is that of Mario, who had an online avatar with which he won amazing matches. However, in real life he could hardly articulate complete sentences in front of a girl. This other virtual self captures Mario and makes him safe in a digital space, while also destroying his ability to interact face-to-face with a person. In counseling she dealt with her condition by teaching her to “face fear to turn it into courage.”

It should be noted that one of the authors, Giorgio Nardone, has other publications, including the art of strategyHeader, 2017; I think that’s why I suffer. when too much thought hurts, Paos, 2012; You Women’s Mistakes (in love)Farts, 2011.

Anand today, in 5 shapes

1- Limitations of sex in the new century:

Today the boundaries between reality and virtuality are becoming indiscernible. The Internet is a factor that we can no longer ignore, which is present in all areas of our lives and which is beginning to affect intimate and sexual relationships.

2- Frustrated search for satisfying relationships:

One of the great paradoxes of the welfare society is the apparently great availability of social and sexual stimuli as well as ways of forming relationships, however, with a rapidly increasing dissatisfaction.

3- New elements in sexual dynamics:

The technical medium enters social, emotional and sexual relations as another element, with equal or greater importance than others. Cybersex, dating apps, porn, online experiences… However, it is worth asking if these new dynamics can help initiate and strengthen interpersonal relationships or contribute to frustration?

4- Sociability replaces sensuality:

Couples seem to have a tendency to prefer satisfying their spouse’s emotional needs over sexual needs. Lovers become friends and it can be difficult to reconnect with physical desire.

5- Simple solutions to complex problems:

This book collects empirical research work on the psychological distress that can result from a desperate pursuit of pleasure and suggests simple therapeutic solutions for successfully achieving sexual well-being.

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